Finding a job is like finding a relationship, you can't really look for one, it sort of finds you.
If you recall how you met your wife or husband, it wasn't because you were looking to meet your future mate, was it? You probably weren't looking for someone to date either. I used to say "stop looking and you'll probably find what you are looking for".
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Back to the relationship analogy, finding a job is just like dating. On iVillage there was a post about the 15 steps to finding a boyfriend and every single one of them applies to a job seeker.
1. Be realistic
Know what you are looking for. And remember, it isn't about the money.
2. Be a hot mama, not a prospective mama
Don't talk about a job too early in the process of networking, that is like talking about what you want to name your children on the first date. Be attractive first.
3. Make dating a priority
Dating equals networking. You never know where you'll meet someone. You have to meet a lot of people before you find the right fit for a relationship.
4. Nix the ex talk
Don't bad mouth past employers or people, ever.
5. Neurotics needn't apply.
You need to be emotionally healthy.
6. Mind your manners.
Pick up an etiquette hand book if you are unsure of what constitutes good manners. Another reminder: turn your cell phone off before the date/meeting/interview.
7. Similarity breeds success.
Is there a similarity in core values?
8. Present a challenge.
Show interest but don't stalk.
9. Don't be a babbling brook.
Know when to shut your trap and listen. The two ears, one mouth rule applies.
10. Sunny side up.
Be nice.
11. Be a girl
Don't debate or behave like you are in control. Male or female, you are a guest, show manners.
12. Look beyond his good looks.
Look deeper than the surface. Are they putting on their "dating best behavior"?
13. Be mindful of that ole black magic.
Pay attention to your gut instinct, if something seems to good to be true, it probably is.
14. Hold out before having sex
OK, this doesn't really apply… however, it is very similar to being offered a job, don't accept it on the spot!
15. Go with the flow.
Be willing to compromise. Be flexible!
Amazing how many similarities there are. Finding a job is like courting. It takes an investment of time. Hope this helps.
Hannah Morgan speaks and writes about job search and career strategies. She founded CareerSherpa.net to educate professionals on how to maneuver through today’s job search process. Hannah was nominated as a LinkedIn Top Voice in Job Search and Careers and is a regular contributor to US News & World Report. She has been quoted by media outlets, including Forbes, USA Today, Money Magazine, Huffington Post, as well as many other publications. She is also author of The Infographic Resume and co-author of Social Networking for Business Success.
